Close your eyes and you are back in the sixth grade. Your entire class is standing in a line around the classroom. You are in the middle of the line. The teacher whispers a sentence to the first student in line. The student turns to the student beside her and whispers the exact sentence to her. In turn, she whispers the exact sentence to the classmate beside her and it continues on down the line and it is now your turn. The sentence whispered to you is, "Oreo cookies are served for lunch." Your turn to pass it on, "Oreos' are served for lunch." You left off cookies because everyone knows Oreos' are cookies. When the sentence is whispered to the teacher, "cookies for lunch" she snickered. She read the sentence out loud from the piece of paper in her hand, "Oreo cookies will be served next Wednesday during the special lunch of spaghetti and meatballs." The children giggled and took their seats. Can you remember your sentence when you had to do this in class? Isn't this what happens when we spread rumors? When we make "mountains out of molehills"? Or simply in the wrong place at the wrong time?
If we put a spoon in a glass of water and stir it, the water begins to climb up the side and move away from the spoon. Depending how much water is in the glass, the water never leaves the glass. It just remains in the turmoil the spoon is causing. Now think of a situation where there is a "spoon" in a room of people (the water in the glass) that is talking about someone you work with. The more that person speaks, the more the water is stirred. You can't get away, you are just "twirled" into the words spoken. You are being pushed against the side of the glass but eventually you will be sucked into the whirlpool of the spoon. What do you do? You are a christian and know not to gossip about others. You can not leave your area. You are already praying for the Lord to cease the words of the person. You don't agree with the person because you know that will just endorse what they believe is right. Again, WHAT DO YOU DO?
By reason of just being in the same room, laughing when the person is laughing, or saying "yes" can make you a party of spreading gossip. To some christians, warning signs can occur like goose bumps on the arms (hair raising on your arms), empty gut feeling (done something wrong), and crying, for a few. The feelings of guilt. You want to ..... TO WHAT? Hide your head in the sand like an ostrich? Apologize to the person of gossip for being in the wrong place at the wrong time? Were you happy with the group? Were you happy or sad afterwards?
When swelling and pride come, then emptiness and shame come also, but with the humble (those who are lowly, who have been pruned or chiseled by trial, and renounce self) are skillful and godly Wisdom and soundness. The integrity of the upright is my guide. (Proverbs 11:2-3)
We can pray this prayer and put on our Shield of Armour and ask God for Wisdom and the words for the next Mountain we encounter.
I fear not, for God is with me; I am not dismayed; for He is my God. He will strengthen me, yes. He will help me, He will uphold me with His righteous right hand. (Isaiah (41:10) We can become insecure we believe this is going to happen and pray this pray for security.
Or we can just say that we can just tell the person that we value what they have to say but if it does not have anything directly to do with you, therefore; you do not wish to hear it or be involved in the conversation and to please take the conversation elsewhere. What do you think? Would that stop the "spoon from stirring"? Can it be spoken with Gods words and voice? Can you say it to where the person would understand that they would not want the conversation to be about them so they should not share about others except to the person directly?
I am one who has weakness for being in the wrong place at the wrong time and doing the above. I am a sinner with that but thank the Lord God that he has forgiven me for my sins. I now work daily on my sins just as each of us do. I read and study the word of God. I pray and talk to the Lord all the time. I have an intimate relationship developing with Jesus that people don't understand and always want me to justify myself for what I do. I think about the spoon in the glass of water now and want to be in that water making it so thick with God's love that the spoon can not move.
Would love to have scriptures so the water can become thick. Would love to "burn" the scriptures into my soul so I can fight off the darkness of hurting words. Goodnight and.....
God Bless You All!!!